If they're getting kicked out, they'll already have choson to leave, it's our job, as their parents, to make sure they understand the rules, what's expected, why it is the way it is and so on. If they wish to leave, or don't want to, they come with us till they're old enough to leave on their own. We have this place, we can spend years alone with them, in the blink of an eye. At that point, it's not them leaving them, it's them choosing to not be his, that's all. I doubt he'd hate them for making their own choice later. The only reason he has a problem with YOU leaving, is because you're his mother, and you're taking his siblings with you, that's making a choice that they, are more important than him. When in reality, none of them should be more important than the other.